As most of my friends know, I have what is known as gender dysphoria. For those of you who need that dumbed down; I wish I had been born a male and think more like a 'man'. Weird to say it out loud. The reason this is my state of being is because all my life , instead of hearing things like 'Elle is Elle' I heard 'oh my god everything you do is what little boys do. that is what boy do. Little girls don't act like that.' so I grew up with the notion, that instead of just being 'who I am' my gender was what defined my actions, or should have. I grew up with the idea that because I was female I was supposed to act a certain way, and because I did not, I was acting like a man. That is the root of the issue of gender dysphoria. Now. to expand. I am aware that what I think is me wanting to be a male, is just me wanting to be myself. I don't want male anatomy. I mean, okay yeah if I had it I would be doing some things that a girl DEFINITELY would not do. The thing is. I want to be me. I want to wear cargo pants. I want to sit with my legs open. I want to make crude jokes and play video games. I want to do things typically considered 'male' activities. This is who I am. The issue people have with this, is that it is not 'female' behavior. Stop that. That is the issue that causes gender problems. You assign actions to gender. No. Don't assign color. Don't assign actions, or behaviors to one gender or another. That is what causes people to question their gender. THAT is what causes the confusion and causes people to think they need to CHANGE their gender to make themselves fit who they are. They are already perfect as who they are. stop telling them their behavior is not fitting of their gender. Suicide rates are high among trans people because they realize that even though they changed their gender, people are still judging them. They can't handle the physical changes. They don't understand how changing their outward appearance did not help and their depression grows worse. You want people to stop being trans? Stop fucking labeling actions and behaviors to genders. Gender is just what you are born with. Sex is just what you are BORN with. It does not define your personality. It does not define your interests and it should not LIMIT your behaviors and capabilities just because of standards set by society. People want rights to fight for? people want acceptance in the world for who they are? Then fight for that. Fight for people to be able to be who they are without their actions being considered masculine or feminine. I will never act on my urge to want to be a man, because I know that the urge stems from years of hearing how my behaviors and interests were not fitting of a woman. I know that my being a 'fuck boy' is because of social conditioning. For those of you who are struggling with the idea that you are not your right gender because you don't 'act' right. Please, don't feel that way. You are perfect the way you are. What is between your legs and on your chest does NOT define your personality. does not DEFINE who you should and should not love. You are beautiful just how you are and you should not have to change to be better! Those of you who believe you want to change because you truly do not want to stay your gender I wish you luck with your transformation and I accept you as who you say you are. what is between your legs and on your chest does not matter to me. You are who you are and I love you or hate you regardless.
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